when it rains...

People always talk about the fact that when it rains,it pours. They also talk of things happenning in pairs. I have heard this and others but they did not make any meaning to me until these last few weeks.Within the last three weeks, I lost my mother and my brother-in-law. My heart aches, most especially since I am many miles away from home in another continent. This is the time when I should counsel my loved ones but distance makes this impossible.
There are things that happen to a person that do have the possibility of changing the person. These incidents of the last three weeks made me to realize that whatever one wants to do, one must do it now. One must live each day as his last. This is because one does not know what will happen next. When I was leaving Nigeria this year February, I told my mother I would be back to see her. That is not possible anymore.Not only that, I would be going back to start taking care of my nephews because their father is no more.How life changes us all. So, whatever you think you need to do to help another, just do it now!

bidding farewell

Today my mother was buried and I was not there. I was outside the country studying and it would have cost an eye to be there and be back at studies. Mothers are important because of the bond that usually exists between them and their children. I remembered my mother because she was there for all of us her children. She was always interested in our well being and always praying and working for our success.
Even when we had our disagreements, such are quickly resolved and we become friends again. My only regret was the fact that I could not give her all the treats that I had planned for her.She suffered for us and was always striving for our best. Iya Adua, I know that we will meet again in the land beyond but as they say in my language,
Maa j'okun , ma j'ekolo
Ohun won ba n je l'orun
Ni o ba won je.
Ma ma ba won kole onimo l'orun O
O di gbere, omo Ikoyi Eso.

my heart breaks

my heart breaks
in the middle of the
night.
i shiver continuously
thinking of you
and
thinking about you.

my sleep breaks,
when i need slumber.
in the middle of night,
my heart calls to you.

is this love?
enchantment?
attachment?
the answer sway
in the wind.

what i know,
is
my heart breaks,
my sleep disturbed;
because
of my feeling
and
thoughts about you.

my heart breaks!

friends

How do you know your true friends? Most times you are able to know those who care for you when you are in trouble, in grief or working out a loss. As human beings, we meet a lot of people in our life. The ability to pinpoint those that are true friends can at times be very difficult. In my own experience, my friends in most times come through when I am down or going through a problem. Take what I am going through as an example.
I am far from home and I suffered a loss. The most surprising thing to me is that my friends at home stood up to fill the vacuum which my absence created. This is a big revelation to me. Not that they are there for me but that they are doing it. In addition in the new land that I am, friends that I have made are all surrounding me, giving me words of encouragement and sharing words of hope with me. To me that proves the goodness of human beings. Underneath our skins are the urge to relate and help. The question then is, why the evil that pervades humanity? We need to understand that it is as a result of the way we treat news. The media in the modern time glorifies the evil, the bad and untoward news. As they say in journalism, bad news is news. This then tends to colour our perception of human beings which while paradoxical is also tragic. Majority of human beings are hardworking, loving and caring.
Like the dot on a white paper however, most people will see the dot rather than the large area of white paper. How well the world would be if we can just pay more attention to the large area of white paper rather than the tiny dot. There is human goodness and we become better when we encourage this goodness rather than human bestiality.